We spend so much time talking about food, exercise, sleep and stress when we talk about living a healthier life, but we rarely talk about friendship. In this episode of After Hours, Stephen and I explore what science can tell us about why friendship matters, from research linking stronger social relationships with better survival outcomes to the surprising amount of time it can take to turn an acquaintance into a genuinely close friend. We also get into the very human side of it: why making friends as an adult can feel harder, the difference between being alone and being lonely, the “liking gap” when meeting new people, and why friendship deserves to be treated as a serious relationship rather than something that simply happens in the background of our lives.
What struck me most is that friendship is not simply emotional. Supportive relationships can help buffer our response to stress, give us a sense of safety and connection, and help us recover through difficult periods. But good friendship also requires something less scientific and much more practical: time, vulnerability, effort and the willingness to keep showing up. Some friends are with us for a season, some survive years and kilometres apart, and some become the people we know we can call when life gets difficult. The point isn’t to collect as many friends as possible. It is to recognise that the relationships we choose to nurture may be doing far more for our health, happiness and resilience than we realise.
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